Be the Dad She Needs You to Be

From the New York Times best-selling author of “Have a New Kid by Friday” comes an essential guide for fathers seeking to build a meaningful relationship with their daughters. Dr. Kevin Leman, an internationally-known psychologist and father of four daughters, provides practical wisdom for dads who want to understand their unique role in shaping their daughter’s life. This book addresses how a father’s presence (or absence) directly impacts his daughter’s self-esteem, decision-making, character development, and future relationships.

The book explores the profound connection between fathers and daughters, revealing that this relationship often matters more to a daughter than even her relationship with her mother. Leman explains how daughters view their fathers as their first and most important representative of the male species, which shapes their perceptions of all future male relationships. Through relatable examples and psychological insights, he demonstrates why being actively engaged in your daughter’s life isn’t just important—it’s essential for her emotional and relational health.

Dr. Leman offers straightforward, actionable advice that fathers can implement immediately, regardless of their daughter’s age. He covers crucial topics like making each daughter feel uniquely valued, effective discipline strategies, understanding what young men are really thinking, avoiding excessive criticism, and creating peace when family dynamics become tense. The guidance is presented with Leman’s characteristic humor and down-to-earth approach, making complex psychological concepts accessible to everyday fathers.

What sets this book apart is its emphasis on the lifelong impact fathers have on their daughters. Leman doesn’t just focus on childhood or teenage years but addresses how a father’s influence continues to shape his daughter well into adulthood. He acknowledges that no father is perfect but provides a roadmap for building a legacy of love, respect, and connection that will endure throughout both their lives.

Whether you’re the father of a toddler, teenager, or adult daughter, this book offers hope and practical steps for strengthening your relationship. Leman’s message is clear: it’s never too late to become the dad your daughter needs you to be. With compassion and expertise, he guides fathers toward creating that dream relationship based on mutual love and respect—one that will positively influence every aspect of their daughter’s life.